There are some people who have these awe-inspiring love stories of a couple who went through hell and back in order to be together. There are couples who endured some long distance because of jobs. There are couples who have to fight back against resistance from friends, family, and/or traditions. There are couples who had to an extreme juggling act between work, family, and other commitments. But there are also couples who only jump through the hoops of everyday life: The balancing act between work, family, friends, and extras that make you an individual.
I think the important thing to remember in a relationship is that there needs to be a little hoop jumping. Not because it needs to be this big gesture, which it is, but because when you jump through some hoops to be with someone (to experience a big day for them, to make a trip to visit their family in California, to buy something you know they need) you demonstrate not only to them, but to everyone else that you are committed to this person in your life. You aren't just showing up in their life. You're making effort.
Every good relationship needs effort to be made. And both parties need to be willing to jump through hoops now and again in order to make the relationship work.
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